The late Harry Gordon Selfridge was credited in his day as a trailblazer in consumer satisfaction that revolutionized the retail industry. Mr. Selfridge cornered the market years ago with the whole notion of great customer service by any means necessary. According to an article found in the Chicago Tribune on March 28, 2014 entitled, “Mr. Selfridge: The Man Who Invented Retail Therapy”, Selfridge took great stock in how he treated his customers which fundamentally set the stage for superior customer service. This concept was adopted as a best business practice most retailers still use today…thus the idea of the customer is always right — a phrase he likely coined. While this concept made great strides in the success of consumer retail purchasing, it has also been a disruption in reshaping the psyche of the consumer.
Some customers have developed a false sense of power in demanding what they want at any expense other then their own.
A personal story:
Several years ago, I worked for a car rental company that has most certainly built their reputation on pleasing their customers to the fullest extent.
It’s Christmas time and the office was filled with none less than about 20 customers. I proceeded to pick up a customer that all other co-workers avoided due to previous bad encounters unbeknownst to me. On the drive back to the office, the customer and I had a great conversation and all seemed well in the land. As we reached the office, I sat the customer down and began to go through my normal process of setting up a rental contract. She did not have a credit card which was no problem. I proceeded to explain to her our process for “Cash Qualifying” customers. To my surprise, she jumped up, began cursing at me and threatened me with bodily harm if I didn’t put her into a rental without going through a bunch of (expletives). I calmly tried to take control of the situation by explaining to the customer that I am happy to help her if we could just sit down and discuss her options for a rental. She continued in her belligerence and started toward me to further emphasize her point. To avoid any physical contact, I proceeded to the manager’s office who could hear the entire exchange but never came to my defense. Instead, he said he would take over the rental and totally went against the policy that we were taught just to quiet her down. He put her into a rental and sent her on her way. I was angered and flabbergasted all at the same time. Was the customer right? What message did that also send to the other 20 customers who witnessed this awful display? Shortly thereafter, I resigned my position since I no longer felt safe or protected in my work environment. This is a job where I received numerous awards and recognition for both customer service and sales. By all accounts, I was one of their star employees.
I have worked several customer service jobs throughout my career and have always been told that the customer is always right. However, from my first job at the age of 16 until now I have unapologetically disagreed. Having said that, exceptional customer service has always been one of my greatest strengths and an asset to my career. The confrontation with that out of control customer further solidified my point that the customer indeed is not always right.
I am all for the normal processes of trying to please a patron, however, when threats and unhealthy behavior is exhibited, there should be no tolerance for customers who behave egregiously in effort to get their way. Therefore, this dispels the notion that customers are always right. We have to recondition consumers to know that yes, they are indeed important and a priority. However, this does not give license to aggressive, disrespectful and contentious behavior in order to ensure their satisfaction. The notion that the customer is always right trains customers to think that the universe rises and sets on their existence regardless of circumstance. This is not a good practice. If all customers have to do is just throw a tantrum to get their way regardless of policies, procedures and appropriate protocol, this not only undermines businesses, it also can potentially place employees in unnecessary harms way.
Here a few tidbits I would like to offer that I have learned over the years as both an employee and a consumer. These are solely based on my personal experiences and not from anyone else’s books or methodology.
Lessons for Employees and Management:
Step #1 – Give customers what they pay for and/or what your advertisement suggests and make every effort to be as helpful as possible. Try not to ever tell a customer no, but instead try to offer alternatives and solutions.
Step #2 – Treat customers with respect and a sense of importance and appreciation for their patronage.
Step #3 – Diffuse potential contentious situations by not using buzz words that set customers off such as: I don’t know! This is not my area! Can you come back later, I’m busy right now. There is no one here to help you right now.
Step #4 – Do not argue with customers especially not in front of other customers.
Step #5 – Do not argue with employees in front of customers.
Step #6 – Listen to the customers’ complaint before offering a response to make sure you understand the need or problem.
Step #7 – Never, Never, Never condone a customer’s disrespect to your staff.
Step #8 – Never, Never, Never condone an employee’s disrespect to your business or customers.
Step #9 – Properly train staff on providing exceptional customer service and remedies for unhappy customers. Always have a plan B for situations that customer service policies do not address.
Step #10 – Never mistreat a customer or make assumptions based on someone’s race of perceived intelligence level due to appearance.
Step #11 – Do not take out personal or professional frustrations on customers. Take a break until you cool off. The customer should not be made privy to what should have been handled privately.
Customers:
Step #1 – Know that there are situations where you may not be right.
Step #2 – RESPECTFULLY demand what you pay for if the business/establishment has not fulfilled their responsibility.
Step #3 – Be gracious to new trainees, you just never know how that may work to your benefit.
Step #4 – Expect exceptional customer service and provide feedback for anything less.
Step #5 – Make a concerted effort to reward exceptional customer service by writing a letter, making a phone call or asking to speak with management.
Step #6 – Never walk away unhappy without any effort to make concerns known to management.
Step #7 – Smile and use your manners. Say please and thank you as often as possible. After all, isn’t that what we teach the kids.
Step #8 – Never mistreat an employee because of their race or perceived intelligence level based on appearances.
Step #9 – Do not over assume your importance over another customer due to your income level.
Step #10 – Apologize if you get it wrong!!!
Step #11 – Do not take out personal or professional frustrations on staff and businesses. Try to clear your head before entering an establishment. Your personal issues should not be visited on others to vent your frustrations.
I learned early on as both a consumer and employee how important it is to use customer service as a beneficial resource and not a psychological noose around the necks of businesses. I have mastered the art of making my customers feel valued without devaluing myself or the business at hand. Exceptional customer service cannot be undermined by the consumer or the business but instead used as a bartered tool for services rendered and received.
Blessings and Inspiration,
Shannon Ayers Speaks
Hi Shannon, in my experience it’s almost seemed as if there is an unwritten rule in the customer service industry that ideas like the ones you expressed in this article shouldn’t be uttered (i.e. challenging the philosophy that the customer is always right), but I say “thank you!” Thank you for starting this discussion and expressing what I’m sure many of us who have worked in customer service have felt at one time or another.
The important thing, which I believe you also touched on, is not allowing difficult customers’ behavior to change our attitudes when we work with them. After working as a manager at a hotel I learned that there are indeed those customers who believe that causing a scene will “get them more” and that is always frustrating to deal with. But many times, keeping that positive attitude and staying focused on providing even the most difficult of customers with the highest quality service can often diffuse tense situations.
But then there are those cases like the one you described where nothing you can do will be good enough in the customer’s eyes. And like you touched on, at that point it’s important for management to support their team and follow the policies in place for dealing with those situations properly. And on the *extremely rare* occasion when a customer proves to be more harm than good that may mean (hold on to your seats) a top level manager explaining to a customer that perhaps they will be best served elsewhere.
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Customers are only right if the employee reacts to them. I’ve worked at a Subway and I dealt with many annoying customers. Many saying my subs were bad, some saying I was rude for some reason because I looked at them a certain way. Customers are only right if they get a reaction out of us. I know for a fact I wanted to scream at some customers, but I always reserve myself from doing so.
Some customers are just there to get on the nerves of an employee. Many times I’ve gotten people in at subway who would just ridicule me for my job. I of course put on a smile and serve them, but I’ve often wanted to throw their sub in their faces. Thankfully I never did.
It’s hard though, customers can be a pain to deal with, but sometimes it’s better to just settle with the customer and give them a free sub or a coupon or something.
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Profound insight! I agree. There is a delicate balance between meeting the customer’s needs and maintaining a professional work environment. Your post gives both customer and establishment the tools for a more pleasant business experience. I believe we all agree that the customer should be treated with the utmost respect, even when wrong. However, belligerence and acting disorderly requires a different approach–one that safeguards the integrity of the establishment and maintains the safety of other customers and the employees. Thanks for addressing this issue!
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We always see a long list of things that employees must live by but never anything for the customers themselves. It’s so good to finally see something like this and now we just have to get more customers to see it and stop acting the way they do.
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Sarah,
From your mouth to God’s lips. :-). I am hopeful yet!!! Thank you for reading my post and for following http://www.ShannonAyersSpeaks.com.
Blessings and Inspiration,
Shannon Ayers Speaks
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I would challenge department stores to publicly publish a code of conduct for customers on every register and throughout the store (particularly in the fitting room). I would further challenge them to enforce these policies.
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For me Step 11 is crucial. There should always be a separation between personal and professional when interacting with others. This goes for both the employee and customer. I witnessed a man get cutoff in the parking lot by an African man and then later berate an African American employee without any provocation. I could not help but think that a normally well mannered man exploded his frustrations from the parking lot on an employee who appeared similar to him.
Sadly, in the face of a verbal assault, the employee had to be gracious, understanding and compromising.
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I couldn’t agree more! As both a customer and a small business owner, there are most definitely situations where the client is not right. I wonder how this ‘false sense of power’ (as you so eloquently put it) started to develop. Is it maybe because Big Box stores started just giving the customers what the wanted to keep their patronage, and customers just got used to it? I’m not sure, but this is another very interesting article, Shannon. I appreciate you sharing your perspective and story!
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I have always taken issue with “the customer is always right” philosophizers. As a businesswoman, I have witnessed multiple times when the customer being “right” has significantly hurt the brands bottom line. This can be referenced in multiple protests against brands for not allowing mothers to breastfeed in public or the owners political and religious beliefs are placed into question. If employees were generally courteous to begin with we would not need such rules. Everything in life can be negotiated without having to cater to an upset customer that may not be justified in their complaint.
It also goes the other way in establishments that do not practice any form of customer service. They can be seen as believing they are always right and thus lack a substantial amount of customer service in the process.
If anything, I think we should bring back etiquette classes to middle and high school students. We need to encourage others to be kind and gracious and i will be returned to them without rules and regulations.
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There is something to be said for companies that cave to the pressures of “the customer is always right” when customers are clearly wrong. There has to be a middle ground.
Well said, JL. Thank you, Shannon, for sparking this conversation.
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I second the motion for an etiquette class. I think so much of that has been lost over the last few generations. I know I could have used something like that growing up, and it’s something I work on with my own kids. Awesome!
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Haha, etiquette class. What a novel idea! There is something to be said about the degradation of rules, manners, and common decency. I am saddened that we now have to teach respect.
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Love the post.. and like you.. I’m big on AMAZING customer service.. The idea that the customer is “always right” has definitely changed greatly over the years. There was a time when more individuals took responsibility for their actions. Today not so much… We are in a very..”Me Me Me” type of world.. with no regard for rules, respect, or responsibility. I’ve learned to communicate differently in order to guide a customer what they believe is ‘right’ to what is ACTUALLY ‘right’. I had to learn that thing.. lol.. Most of the time.. through my language I can get a customer to see things my way..while thinking it was all their idea.. Honestly a skill I had to pick up if I desired to serve the market place of these times.. At the end of it.. I leave them ‘thinking’ the customer is always right.. rather it’s true or not.. it’s what they believe.
Loved this post.. my favorite out of your is #5 for management.. I had to learn this one in my youth..as a teenager.. lol.. You just brought back some memories with that point.. lol.. thank you.. enjoyed this one.. keep smiling
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Sgordon394,
I really enjoyed reading your comment. It did indeed make me smile. I appreciate your encouraging words. I am hopeful that we can reverse the damage done by spreading the word to businesses and customers alike. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN ACTIONS…I love it!!! I could not have said it better. Thank you for reading my post and for following http://www.ShannonAyersSpeaks.com.
Blessings and Inspiration,
Shannon Ayers Speaks
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It has taken awhile, but I think I have come around to your way of thinking. I used to believe the ‘customer is always right ‘ philosophy and worked for a company that practiced it. I like you was often dismayed at the unsatisfactory situations that it lead to. My husband is a designer and he doesn’t practice that philosophy in his work. People will often come to him and want him to design things that go against what he is trying to help them do. He has often in the past had to part ways with a customer due to their inability to make a good project happen. At first I thought he was crazy – your loosing business, I told him. But, in the long run the fact that he only puts out quality work and good design has benefited him. I like your website – thanks!
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Jodie,
While the customer is not always right, the goal of the merchant should always be to fully satisfy their customer to the BEST of their ability. Having said that, some customers just can’t be satisfied. Bottom-line is that customers have to learn that the sun does not rise and set on their dollar alone and should be respectful and mindful of that at all times. Thank you for your comment and for following http://www.ShannonAyersSpeaks.com.
Blessings and Inspiration,
Shannon Ayers Speaks
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That’s why companies hire security guards to avoid customer problems.
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Maria,
Not all companies have security guards. Mine didn’t when I was threatened. Security is definitely a great resource to employ. Additionally, organizations should undergo extensive training to try to undo the damage done by, “the customer is always right” mentality. Thank you for reading and commenting on my post at http://www.ShannonAyersSpeaks.com. Please follow me at the bottom of this page for future posts.
Blessings and Inspiration,
Shannon Ayers Speaks
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The problem is that sometimes employers require sellers to endure crazy customers without any reaction (as they say the customer is king).
To not lose their jobs Worldwide miserable sellers are forced to endure insults, threats, non-compliance …
All this is a sign of poor education.
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Marcia,
Thank you for your response. Yes, employers place their staff in very uncomfortable situations in order to maintain a client. I am not sure if it is so much as poor education as it is poor business practices. Employers have to recondition the mindset of the customer to remove the idea that any behavior is acceptable from the consumer as long as the business is acquired. If you haven’t done so already, please follow me at the bottom of this page for future posts. Thank you for reading and responding to my post at http://www.ShannonAyersSpeaks.com.
Blessings and Inspiration,
Shannon Ayers Speaks
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Any relationship must be based on respect, if there is no respect the relationship is not safe.
The same for the relationship client / vendor , an aggressive customer who exceeds the limits in words or actions must be expelled from the store with no regrets.
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Kiwana,
Thank you for your comment and beautifully put. I agree wholeheartedly. If you haven’t done so already, please follow me at the bottom of this page for future posts. Thank you for reading my article and commenting at http://www.ShannonAyersSpeaks.com.
Blessings and Inspiration,
Shannon Ayers Speaks
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Beautiful, I really loved your article.
This is relationship code between customer and seller
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Vivek,
That’s a great way to put it. We teach children how to interact with one another. Surely as adults we should be able to treat others with the same respect we ourselves should require. If you haven’t done so, please follow me at the bottom of this page to receive future posts. Thank you for reading my article and for your comment on http://www.ShannonAyersSpeaks.com.
Blessings and Inspiration,
Shannon Ayers Speaks
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I agree with what you have said about customer service. I have worked for only a few Managers that would stand up for their employees when customers would be disrespectful or belittling to them. I do not believe that the customer is always right especially when they are rude. We need more managers to stand up for their employees while upholding a standard for quality customer service.
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Alicia,
Your response could not be more true. We need a more healthier balance and approach to ensure exceptional customer service while holding the customer to a standard as well. There should be an equal balance exchange between the consumer and the merchant or organization. It is called basic people skills which a lot of customers lack due to a mentality that they are right no matter what. Thank you for your comment and for supporting http://www.ShannonAyersSpeaks.com.
Blessings and Inspiration,
Shannon Ayers Speaks
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