I just spent a couple of months in a funk because my life isn’t where I want it to be. I was a bit grouchy with my husband and kids. Every little thing irritated me. That time of the month only made it worse.
My job situation is far from inspiring. I still have two classes to finish a Masters degree and three classes to to finish another, yet it still seems so far out of reach. The kids won’t clean up after themselves without me yelling from the time I get home from work until they go to bed. Lastly, I really want to lose weight.
Okay, that’s everyone’s life right? One day I had to ask what was I doing to encourage myself into a better tomorrow. It was a slap in the face question because I realized at that moment that I am the culprit hindering my progress. I had to reflect on the aforementioned realizing that if I want my job to be more inspiring for intellectual stimulation, promotion, learning and growth, I have to make it happen.
So I started learning other jobs in my department so that I can increase my knowledge base and experience, make myself more visible in the workplace and become more marketable for other growth opportunities. As for school, I have to refocus and “get’er” done without excuses and make the necessary sacrifices to get pass the finish line. Afterall, I made it this far right? About the kids, I had to start removing fun stuff until they’ve earned it. I had to hold them accountable for their environment without the feeling of “Mommy Guilt” when it comes withholding their stuff. Lastly, in order to lose weight, I have to make a health choice in deciding to just do it. It really is that simple. Five pounds down already!!! Who Whoo!!!!! The importance of me losing weight is so that I can be healthy and increase my life span for as long as God allows me to walk this earth. I also have so many cute clothes that are just calling my name, but I can’t answer back until I get the weight off (It’s a girl thing!!).
So what should all of this mean to you? Are you holding you back from living your best life and enjoying the journey? What can you change in your environment that can reroute your path in a more positive direction? Make the decision today to change at least one thing that is not working for you. It may be a relationship, a spiritual walk, family, career, etc. Whatever it is, get it moving right now! You have to start somewhere. Baby steps are all it takes. Will I stick to everything I just mentioned? I don’t know. Whether I do or don’t, I have taken away my right to complain!!!
Blessings and Inspiration,
ShannonAyersSpeaks
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My today is just barely getting through the day and getting all of my work done that I need to get done. I like to think that it is making way for a brighter future for myself and my family.
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Recently, I was complaining to a good friend about some part of my life that was bugging me. I guess she got sick of it because she said, ” Don’t complain about something that you can change.” She then talked about putting the mental energy into changing rather than complaining and focusing on the negative. It has really made a lot of difference in my life. It sounds like you are on that path. I appreciate the positive energy. You go girl.
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I stumbled on this post at a great time! I’ve been struggling to get out of a stagnant job funk for awhile. I started looking for a new job 2 months ago and after a ton of contacts and phone interviews, I feel like I’ve been treading water and getting nowhere.
I’ve also just been staying the course. I love the question that you put out there though – ‘what are you doing today that encourages your path for tomorrow?’ There has to be something more that I can do to help me move forward while I’m waiting on interviews to fall into place. Thank you for the reminder!
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Oh yes! I’m feeling you here, Shannon. It’s so easy to become overwhelmed by the feeling that things aren’t right or could be better. You really give the best possible advice, though: Baby steps. Not everything is going to be resolved today. Part of the challenge is wading through the emotional stuff to find out what actions you CAN take today.
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Love it!!! May the Lord add a tremendous blessings! May He bless everything that your hands touch, in Jesus’ name, AMEN!
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Thank you for the encouragement and for checking out ShannonAyersSpeaks.com.
Blessings and Inspiration,
Shannon Ayers Speaks
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Absolutely Amazing! We hinder Us! It’s so easy to do the “wrong” thing verses doing what’s “right” for our lives. For me, I use the excuse that “I’ll get to it!” But do I? No. I find something that keeps me from doing what I need too to be a better Me. Like I have opportunies to “walk” everyday at my job, at least for lunch and some days I can just go out and do it. But what I’ve found myself doing is using the fact that my “boss” is calling and asking me to do things all the time so I don’t have time. That’s true but I can always use my lunch time to go out and walk. An hour is plenty of time. Plus that hour adds us and after two or three weeks, you start to notice your clothes fitting better and you’re not “winded” when you walk. So We have to start taking care of Us! Thanks Shannon for sharing. That was an “eye-opener” for me. I am committed to trying to walk more. Baby steps…..
Love you Sis!
~SaVette
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Ms. Savette,
Thank you for your candid response. We all are guilty of stagnation at some point in our lives which is why I wrote this post. The best thing is that we don’t have to stay there. It is just as simple as baby steps. Even if it is a quarter of an inch in the right direction, you are a lot further along than just staying in the same place. Be of good courage and thank you so much for taking the time to read my blog. I know “We” can and will do this thing!!! Love you more!!!
Blessings and Inspiration,
ShannonAyersSpeaks
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Great article, I was able to access it directly from this link. I will say that I just had this same epiphany a couple of months ago. I have soooo much that I’m dealing with and feel the same way, my life is not where it should be, I have not accomplished everything I wanted to accomplish at this age, I also realize that every move and step has to be on purpose because I don’t have space for missteps at this age, etc etc etc…. But I also know that I am my biggest hinderance, I can’t blame anyone for the stagnancy in my life. At this crossroads, I am praying for direction and balance. Great article and thought provoking especially for women of a particular age that are trying to define the best part of themselves.
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Kendra,
Thank you for your response. I will likewise hold you up in prayer for the direction and balance you so desire. Once we know where the problem is we know what to pray about. Be of good courage and take one step at a time. I am looking for a praise report!!!!! Much love to you!!!
Blessings and Inspiration,
ShannonAyersSpeaks
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Whoa this is awesome and have inspired me to take at least one baby step right now
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Shanna,
I am so glad you are inspired and know that every step you take I pray that it is claimed as holy ground and therefore is blessed. Before you know it those steps will get bigger and bigger having you wonder how you made it this far. Love you!!!
Blessings and Inspiration,
ShannonAyersSpeaks
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